Mother's Day is hard for some, we want to stand with you

For many years I found Mothering Sunday difficult, and I have to admit, I stayed away from church, how could I go to church and watch people give out flowers to their mums when my mum was not here anymore? For others, it's difficult for different reasons, some have lost children, some have never been able to get married, still others have not been able to have children, and some didn't get on with their mums.

At church this Sunday we have a United Service in Drung at 11am. We aim to give thanks for someone who has mothered us whether they are still around or not.  We also will recognise the worth of every lady by giving out a little gift to all the ladies to say thank-you for all you do for all the children, whether they belong to you or not.

I hope you all feel able to come this Sunday to celebrate someone who has mothered you and hope you will feel included and welcomed because you are. 

You'll see below a whole host of things that we want to do this mothering Sunday - not all of them will be said, but all of them will be intended:

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What we aim to do this Sunday (this list is taken from messymiddle.com - see below for link):

To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you

To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you

To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you

To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you

To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you

To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you

To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you

To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you

To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience

To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst

To those who have aborted children – we remember them and you on this day

To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be

To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths

To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you

To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you

To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart

And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.

(taken from https://www.messymiddle.com/an-open-letter-to-pastors-a-non-mom-speaks-about-mothers-day/)